Love is unselfish, kind and loyal. When we love someone, we always try to search for that one person in every person we meet. We cannot even think of troubling or hurting them, intentionally or unintentionally. Love can either build us or destroy us. If we fall in love with the wrong person, it will adversely impact our mental and emotional state but if we find the right fit for ourselves, then no one’s going to stop us from moving forward and achieving all the milestones because the right person always supports us no matter what the situation is, they are always by our side in all the situations whether bad or good.
MEANING OF LOVE
LOVE is a positive, emotional, addictive and mental state which is just the opposite of hate. Love is addictive because it’s a feeling where we get attached to someone so deeply that we even tend to forget our existence. But true love is where there is support, care, respect, protectiveness & mutual thoughts and understanding for each other. Love is a feeling which is felt by everyone, sooner or later, whether a teenager or an elderly person. It has no age limit. But yes a mature relationship with love comes with ageing.
Love is physical intimacy but not in a way that most people do. It’s about holding hands, playing with hair, touching face all the time, a hand on thighs, grabbing around the waist, head on lap, pulling cheeks, a pat on the back, holding arms and a long comforting hug.
DEFINITION OF LOVE
According to Psychologist and Biologist ENRIQUE BURUNAT, the concept of love is “Love is a physiological motivation such as hunger, thirst, sleep, and sex drive.”
Love is a feeling that does not require a lot of effort but just the small little things and time for each other.
How to show love to another person:
(1) Texting is okay, but what if we go on a late-night drive and play all our favourite songs
(2) Forgiving our partner for their mistakes and putt efforts to sort them out
(3) Remembering their every small little thing
(4) Apologise even sometimes when we are wrong
(5) Showing our efforts and letting them know that we care for them
(6) Always be a good listener
(7) Prioritising our partner
(8) Showing them our love, care and kindness
(9) Love each other unconditionally
(10) Share all the joys and sorrows
(11) Acknowledging our partner of their good qualities and worth
The Effort of Love
The bond will last long when the two people even after their busy schedules find time for each other for activities like watching sunsets and sunrises together, eating their favourite food together, having ice creams in winter, walking together in Central Park, going out for shopping.
Do you know what’s attractive?
It’s not the fancy clothes we wear, fancy cars we drive, fancy makeup we wear
NO
It’s just one word:
EFFORT
The effort we take to make time for our partner or our friends and family to be with them on an important day, the effort we take to dress up on a date night, even though we might mess it up later on, the effort we take to check up on our friend who’s having a tough time, efforts we take to maintain friendships, even though it’s difficult and long distance, the effort we take to make tea for someone maybe when they are back home after work, driving 4 hours to meet someone special for 2 hours.
Leave all of that, effort lies in the little things like sending the text “Text me when you reach home” or calling and congratulating a friend on a new business venture and smiling at a stranger when we pass them on the street or just being kind. The point is effort comes from a place of care. If our partners didn’t care about it, they wouldn’t have put in the effort.
Deep Conversation: The Connecting Wire
Love in a relationship is having a deep conversation to know someone more better which acts as a connecting wire between the two persons emotionally. We cannot share everything with everyone, we only share our secrets when we trust someone and trust is the foundation of love or any relationship. Conversation can be about our childhood memories, favourite scents, music taste, religious views, where we want to live when we’re older, what keeps us up at night, how much certain things mean to us, our insecurities and our fears.
The positive impact of love on our mental health:
(1) Happiness
Just spending time with the person we love can make us feel happy. We are so happy and busy enjoying ourselves that we forget all our sorrows and problems of our life, not completely but yes for those golden and memorable hours with our loved ones. Just sitting with each other without talking is also a different comfort zone. The presence of our loved ones is enough to make us feel happy.
(2) Self-Worth
We are always motivated and inspired whenever we are with someone special. Love makes us realise our self-worth and makes us feel emotionally and mentally strong. Loving means giving a sense of security that we are important & nothing will happen to us and our loved one is not leaving at any cost.
(3) Better Healing
In our tough times, say while facing health problems either mental or physical, we need support from our loved ones for a speedy and better recovery. Research has proven that our mind gets diverted when we keep ourselves busy.
(4) Longer life
It is believed that we tend to live longer when our inner self is eager to live. And our inner self is eager to live more when it feels loved and motivated.
(5) Less Stress
Being in a committed relationship results in less production of stress hormones. This suggests that paired people are less responsive to psychological stress and that the social and emotional support that comes with having a partner can be a great stress buster.
