Unconditional love is an internal choice to continue loving with no expectations or rewards. You might consider this type of love, the love you have for your parents and your children. You may relate it with the couples you see in a romantic movie or while listening to music.
Loving unconditionally is a practice which starts with loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the more you open up the paths to receive love unconditionally. Can you love another person fully, without judgement about who they are, what they say or how they act? Then you offer unconditional love.
7 Ways to Practice Unconditional Love:
1. Love is not how you feel, it is more about how you act.
Try to think of love in this way and you won’t go far wrong. If you treat love as a feeling, when you are getting something from someone else and then you stop getting it then your feelings will change along with your behaviour. An example of this is when you try to be someone you aren’t, or perhaps you have to do something in order to receive love: these then make love conditional.
However, if you start to act a certain way and are not requiring someone else to be something they are not, then that love is unconditional. Your love is not based on what someone else does or says, which means you can continue to act the same way regardless of how other people behave.
2. Adapt your love to others.
Love is received and given to others in many different forms and, unfortunately, there is not a ‘one size fits all’ philosophy.
Unconditional love is a conscious decision you make every day and in every new situation that comes along. There are no rules laid out for everyone, you apply it person by person.
3. Love can sometimes be uncomfortable.
To truly love someone, you have to be able to take the rough with the smooth, and in this instance trying to protect someone from being uncomfortable is not a sign of unconditional love.
Pain and growth are part of life and shielding them from this is not love—if you only set out to make them feel satisfied and happy all the time you will do more harm than good!
Unconditional love requires you to let them experience pain so that they will find their own way and grow at their own pace.
4. Show love to those whom you think don’t deserve it.
Normally when someone else is negative towards you or about you, it’s likely that these people lack something in their own life that prevents them from truly loving themselves. If you see this before you react, and put yourself in their shoes, it can help you in the situation because you know deep inside it has more to do with them than with you. It’s here where you decide to give unconditional love and give it more frequently.
Being this way will provide a good pay off for the toxic people around you, but most importantly, for you, too.
5. Practise unconditional love with a simple act every day.
Try to do this at least once a day: give something and not be wanting anything in return. It can be letting someone through a door first, giving way to another car in a traffic jam, or telling someone you love them without expecting to hear it back in return.
Do something every day and I promise—even though you don’t want anything in return—you’ll get a huge amount of pleasure from just giving unconditional love.
What does it feel like to truly unconditionally love someone?
It’s to love every part of them, mind, body, heart, and their soul. Once your soul loves theirs, that’s true unconditional love. Their happiness becomes your happiness, their pain is your pain, their sadness is your sadness. Your souls are one again intertwined, connected. I want to protect, shield, encompass all of them, even if that’s at the cost of my own pain. Pain I would embrace without hesitation to see the smile on their face, because that joy is shared. Your ego melts away in the presence of your love for them. There are no conditions to my love for them, my love is unconditional.
True unconditional love just like the soul is abundant and endless, like the sky. Undefined, with no borders and no solid ends. The soul has no desires, no wants, no needs. How lucky am I to have experienced a love so true, genuine, and raw, so young?
Is there really unconditional love?
I believe that every love is unconditional at some point. That’s what is particularly happening at the beginning of almost every relationship. You don’t care what your new partner did wrong, what are his flaws, you just want to be with him.
When you are falling in love with somebody, you accept everything about this person. You only see what’s good about him or her. You don’t expect anything besides you to be together as often as possible. That’s wholehearted. As time passes by, your feeling is less selfless and more conditional. You begin to have your expectations. Your perfect love is becoming conditional.
Unconditional Love for Our Partner
You are not choosing your children but you are certainly choosing your partner. You make a conscious decision to be with someone.
That means you are calculating if his/her features, behaviors and appearance are enough for you. Then, you make a conscious decision to be with this person every day. It’s the choice you make based on what has happened it the past and what are your future plans.
If there is unconditional love, there would be no divorces or breakups. You can’t just stop loving someone. If you think you do, it just means you didn’t even love this person in the first place.
Unconditional love has no boundaries and it lasts forever. In my opinion, the only way to love unconditionally is to feel the same way for all the people in this world. No matter what the person does or looks like. If you pick a person to love, it means you do it for a specific reason. And this reason is always selfish and gives you some benefits. It’s never a selfless love.
